Dating Survey on Shy Women: 'Shyness' is the Top Trait at 76.00%, with 67.00% Appreciating Direct Expressions of Affection

Survey Report: The Dating Realities of Shy Women

IBEC Co., Ltd., the operator of Happy Mail, a major dating and relationship matching service with 35 million members, conducted a survey on 100 adult women who identify as shy to understand their perspectives on dating.

This survey aimed to clarify the characteristics of shy women, their typical behaviors when they develop romantic interest, and what kind of approaches they find most appealing or offensive from men.

### Key Findings

#### 1. Characteristics of Shy Women When asked about the traits they identify with, 76.00% of the respondents chose "shyness." This was followed by "lack of self-confidence" at 60.00% and "negative thinking" at 57.00%. These results suggest that shy women are often cautious and passive, and that low self-esteem impacts their romantic behavior.

#### 2. Signals of Interest Regarding their behavior when they like someone, "following the person with their eyes" was the most common response at 56.00%. This was followed by "sending replies to keep the LINE conversation going" (45.00%) and "smiling when spoken to" (45.00%). These signs, while appearing subtle to outsiders, indicate a genuine interest in the person.

#### 3. Preferred Approaches and Taboos When asked what kind of approach from a man makes them happy, 67.00% answered "communicating feelings straight," highlighting that shy women generally prefer sincere, clear communication over complicated dating games.

Conversely, when asked about offensive behaviors, many respondents expressed strong discomfort with overly casual language during initial meetings, aggressive skinship, or attempts to close personal distance too quickly. Avoiding rushed approaches and focusing on a gradual, respectful build-up of the relationship is recommended for those looking to build a connection with a shy woman.

### Conclusion This survey reveals that while shy women may struggle with internal anxiety or caution, they deeply appreciate honest and sincere expressions of affection. Respecting the other person's pace and using gentle approaches in a dating app setting are key factors in building successful relationships.

Detailed results of the survey are available on Happy Mail's special web page: https://happymail.co.jp/happylife/characteristic/shy-girl-traits/